Managing Meltdowns: What We've Learned

Andriel had a meltdown at the grocery store yesterday. We’ve learned how to handle these better.

What Doesn’t Help

• “Calm down” (makes it worse)
• Reasoning mid-meltdown (can’t process)
• Punishment (it’s not a tantrum)
• Public embarrassment concerns (his need > their judgment)

What Does Help

Remove triggers. Leave the situation when possible.

Reduce stimulation. Quiet, dim, calm environment.

Physical comfort. If he allows it, gentle pressure or holding.

Wait it out. Meltdowns end when they end. Can’t rush them.

Recover afterward. Talk about it later, when he’s calm.

Prevention Strategies

Warn about changes. “In 5 minutes we’re leaving.”

Avoid known triggers. Loud places during busy times.

Watch for early signs. Hands over ears, increased stimming, verbal withdrawal.

Have exit strategies. Always know how to leave quickly.

What We’ve Accepted

Meltdowns happen. Not from bad parenting. They’re part of autism.

Our job isn’t to prevent all meltdowns. It’s to support him through them.

To Other Autism Parents

You’re not failing. This is hard. You’re doing your best.

Your child needs understanding, not judgment. Give that to them. Give that to yourself.